Unless you’ve been living in a monastery your whole life, then sex and money have probably consumed a lot of your thought. Me too. Being a very inquisitive and spiritual person most of my life has created unique perspectives on these two hot topics. Sex and money.
I think most people are very confused about these two taboos. That’s not a very hard statement to make in today’s chaotic world where it’s okay to watch extreme violence on primetime TV, but too much side boob will unleash the wrath of conservative mothers everywhere (by everywhere, I mean Alabama).
Regardless of how much side boob and under butt you’ve been exposed to, I wanted to share with you a more optimistic view of these subjects. I just kept thinking a lot about life and since life focuses a great deal on sex and money, I thought about them too (I swear it had nothing to do with being an 18 year old juvenile delinquent with raging hormones).
I realized our world has extremely distorted beliefs, stigmas, and taboos around these two hot topics. World, why are you so silly? One of the overriding themes about both sex and money I noticed was this:
Everyone wants it, but they don’t want others to think they want it too much.
After much consideration and to the woe of society, I decided to create my own beliefs about these subjects. Here they are.
1. Sex and money are neither good nor bad
Contrary to popular belief, these subjects are both very neutral. Depending on how they are painted by the observer, one will consider them either evil, corrupt, and unfair, or ecstatic, liberating, and delicious.
However, the societal slant is generally bad. If you have too much money or too much sex then you’re just a greedy pervert.
What does too much even mean?
We’ll, ‘too much,’ depends on each individual person. Everyone has their own idea of what too much is based on their own experience. Then they use their own idea of too much to judge other people.
For example, “I make $3,000 a month and get laid once a week.” might look at someone else who is “I make $300,000 a month and I get laid daily.” and then judge them for making “too much” love.
This entire judgment process that society goes through is flawed to the core. One can not have too much money or too much sex. One can only have just the perfect amount of money and the perfect amount of sex as decided for them by themselves.
2. Screw what everyone else thinks!
(This advice actually improves every aspect of your life, not just love and cash.)
People are quick to judge others before admitting their own faults or failed dreams.
Many people become jealous of others who are more prosperous than they are. They say, “Well he cheated to get that much money” or “She would sleep with anyone.” Rather than asking, how can I improve myself?
Let’s go through a quick emotional thought experiment. Follow me here. Which thought feels better as you read it?
“That wealthy couple are having so much fun together, getting on in their Jacuzzi, snuggling in their leather Eames chair, and rolling all over their 1500 thread count Egyptian cotton bed sheets. Good for them. I would like to enjoy it like they do too. How can I move towards that kind of experience?”
“That wealthy couple are having so much fun together, getting on in their Jacuzzi, snuggling in their leather Eames chair, and rolling all over their 1500 thread count Egyptian cotton bed sheets. They must have lied and cheated to make that much money and now they are just exploiting each other for sex and rolling in sin. Curse them and their money and their pleasure.”
It’s very clear which of these thoughts is constructive or destructive.
If you find that your thoughts sway towards the latter, then I suggest you begin to re-think your world, because you will not thrive in those areas of life that you condemn.
When you choose a negative slant towards sex and money, you choke off the flow of their energy into your life. Money is energy moving and can enable so many amazing experiences for you and your loved ones. Sex is also moving energy within the bodies of you and your partner, which can be used to express, heal, and create.
As I said before, sex and money are not good or bad. They are as you choose to see them. I personally feel that sex and money are amazingly fun experiences of life and should be celebrated. Most people would probably agree with me. I doubt many of you are extremists in these realms but take the lesson even on a moderate level. Watch your own judgments towards these subjects and see if you can let go and heal them further.
Let go of old stigmas laid out by society on people who have abused money and sex. Yes, there are greedy people. Yes, there are creeps. They have their own views about money and sex, but why in the world would you let someone like that form the basis of YOUR belief.
It’s your belief that makes your reality. Now go make some love.